Do you disagree because you have this one friend who met her soulmate, married him in six weeks and they’re still together twenty years later and they have sex twice a day? A man in love might want to propose as quickly as possible but he should have the wisdom and self-control to override that desire.
But statistics are more on the “I don’t” side than the “I do.” Exact figures for second divorces are hard to come by.
Another reader – who was attempting to shoot down my assertion that you should ideally wait 2-3 years before getting engaged – sent me a link to a super-informative article.
“The fact of a couple moving quickly toward marriage is not in and of itself a problem as much as what is driving the speed.
Some couples bury their concerns over such differences; others brood over them. •Anxiety, moodiness, and emotional swings in the wife or the husband do not preordain divorce, but they are related to unhappiness in marriage.
•The birth of a child transforms couples’ lifestyles, but it does not change the feelings husbands or wives have about each other.