But for other men, those who have either not been married by their 40s or are facing a post divorce life in their 40s, there’s a lot of good news that they need to know about.
In youth, the game of sexual relationships is played according to the rules dictated by women. Young women of child bearing age have a clock ticking and they know that they need to find the most suitable father for their children.
Thus, their target market remains women, 27-34 – who may not be ready to settle down quite yet.
These women still have money to make, places to travel and oats to sow.
They withhold their sexual favors while they are wooed by men.
In the calculus of relationships, people figure out their own worth, and then effectively try to engage with someone of equivalent or better value.
At singles events, women come in groups and are reluctant to talk to men.Those early teen experiences shape much of the way men think about relationships.For many men, they find themselves married, with children, a job and the game is over.I find the latter hard to believe, but find this mantra in every profile of every professional woman online. What you’re missing is that what you want has absolutely no relation to what women want. The problem is that many women from 27-34 are independent professionals just like their male peers.Any advice on how to navigate these new paradigms in the dating world? And to directly address your email, I have to divide my response into two different parts: 1) What You’re Getting Right and 2) What You’re Missing. We’ve addressed this before, from an older man who couldn’t possibly fathom why a younger woman wouldn’t want to be with him. We can complain that the opposite sex is unrealistic and passing up great opportunities – and we’d be right – but it doesn’t change that people want what they want. They, too, have a lot of dating options, are busy building their careers, and don’t have a clear urgency to settle down. Theoretically, this is when want to have time before becoming dads.